To choose a groom for yourself, you get a bit choosy. It is the matter of your life and you can’t choose a wrong person for yourself. Choosing a wrong person for yourself can spoil your whole life.
In this article we are up with some ways to choose a groom for you self in case of both the marriages, either love or arranged and these are as follows:-
How To Find Perfect Groom For Yourself
1. Know His Qualifications:-
Know how qualified, the guy is. He should be as qualified as you are or if you are not qualified, at least he should be qualified as he is to take your responsibility. If the marriage is arranged, the guy should at least be an earning hand and if the marriage is a love marriage, then also we advice you, life can’t be run just on the love he gives you. You both will need food to survive and at least if he is not qualified enough; he should be an earning hand for sure.
2. Talk To Him What He Expects From His Wife:-
Some guys don’t like their wife to work after marriage; they don’t even like the girl to go out of home and put some restrictions in front of her. By talking with the guy, you will come to know what he expects from his wife, will he allow you to work, even after marriage or will he wish to see you just as a homemaker. This happens in both the cases; either arranged or even love marriage. If he can’t understand you today, what’s the guarantee that he will understand you after getting married?
3. Ask Him If He Can Take A Stand For You:-
Sometimes in both the marriages either arranged or love marriage what happens, the guy marries the girl but then he feels it impossible for himself to choose between the girl and his parents what takes the form of daily home clash and thus you should ask him before marriage only if ever something like this happens, will he be able to take a stand for you? Even if it is the case of a love marriage, you should enquire your partner if his parents refuse to accept you someday, will he be able to take a stand for you? Obviously, when you leave your parent’s house and go to him, your parents won’t accept you back (Especially in case of Indian families) and if even his family refuses to accept you, where will you go?
4. Ask Him His View About Having Kids:-
Sometimes what happens, the girl is not ready to give birth to a baby but just after the marriage, family of the boy starts creating pressure on the girl to produce a baby to bring the name of their family. It is better you talk to the boy on this topic before marriage only so as to avoid any future clash.
5. Ask What Marriage Means To Him:-
Asking this question to a boy, you can get an idea what his views about marriage are? Sometimes in case of love marriages the guy is just taking an advantage of the girl and has not even ever thought on the topic of marriage, or even in the case of arranged marriages, sometimes the boy says “yes” for marriage because of the family pressure but finds it impossible for himself to love some girl he has not even thought ever about. Asking this question can make you get an idea if he is ready for marriage or not and last but not the least we advice you to talk on every matter deeply with him, share your likes and dislikes as it is now or never, choosing a wrong groom can spoil your life.